*General Observations according to T.S. Nightingale on long-term happiness!*
To reiterate: "To stop someone from finding happiness because you are thinking about your stomach, that is also, equally, stupid". Thwarting 'potential' rivals for her place, getting people on her side and even if she doesn't have control over what they do to 'help' her secure 'her place' and prevent him from finding happiness with someone else, this is grounds for abuse. It's bullying. I get her situation, but she can't force herself on his family, on him, she can't impose on them, burden them with her presence unnecessarily if and when she does not really have feelings for him, and/or her desire for that life is stronger, without him knowing all of this. She can’t force herself on his family, on him, she can't impose on them, burden them with her presence unnecessarily, if and when she prioritizes her desire for long-term financial security over any possible feelings she has for him, if and when she does have these possible feelings for him, just because she thinks she is the 'best'...whatever this means, without him knowing all of this. She may call being the ‘best’ as a reason for ‘taking the seat/position by being his girlfriend’, but if and when she does not really have feelings for him, and/or her desire for that life is stronger, then this is prostitution. If and when she was being so controlling and bossy over him, which I think she was, (grounds for emotional abuse), then copying/competing for so long to 'win' him over, if and when she does not really have feelings for him herself, and/or her desire for that life is stronger, and without him knowing all of this, but living off him and going on all those trips, this is prostitution. If and when he is naively thinking that the 'best’, as in her, has affections for him, I think this is abuse as well, because he has the right to be with someone who wants to genuinely be with him, and not for his money. I have written about him yes, but he has this right. He has the right to not have to feel guilt, if and when he felt it, due to her situation, because I think she used this to her advantage for a really long time to make sure she is secure, at his, and everyone else's cost. If and when the latter is true, then this is manipulation. Pushing for marriage, if and when she doesn't really have feelings for him, and/or her desire for that life is stronger, without him knowing all of this, well, then, this is prostitution too. It’s not his problem that she is not as financially secure as he is, it’s not. It’s easy to feel sorry for her, but it’s no one’s problem but her own. So yes, he did force her to do things, but she, I think, forced herself in his life too, in their lives without him, or them, knowing why she is really there. She might have been concerned about any potential adverse effects due to potentially losing his networks if she had left, as I was if I had stayed, but she knew what she was getting herself into and continued anyway. This is where it gets slightly confusing about her staying: one reason might be that she wanted to prevent it from getting worse for herself if she had left, and if she left, how many times would he have gone back to her and would not have left her alone because he has no one, unless he chooses otherwise??? He was manipulative, but she, I think, was manipulative too. Both of them are held accountable.
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